Why are so many boys and men feeling alone and in the cold? - eviltoast
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    1 year ago

    Patriarchy

    You know the thing that bugs me the most about social patriarchy is the same thing that really gets me about anti-apologetics. There is the notion that there needs to be this unilateral action of sorts and straying from it shows weakness of sorts. It’s not uncommon to hear conservative and traditionalist indicate that admitting wrong is a sign of weakness. And the reality is that we learn best from our own mistakes. Trail and error is an incredible teaching tool.

    Patriarchy goes against what we actually know about how human beings learn things. It goes against the nothing of taking multiple inputs to come to a conclusion. It goes against the process of being well informed. It’s these absolutes within this kind of system that give rise to the various toxic behaviors. I think if men actually sit there and actually listen to women and allow women to participate in decisive action, men will learn infinitely way more.

    Men need feminism too

    Exactly. Good objective thinking relies on taking all input and being able to share executive action. Humans aren’t stronger than a bear, we’re not faster than a cheetah, and hell we don’t live nearly as long as most trees. The quality that humans have that places them above all else, is thinking and reasoning. And we do better at that quality by broadening our horizons not limiting them. The whole wild arguments of “well male lobsters assert dominance…”. Lobsters or whatever animal a particular someone who I won’t name tries to parallel us with, they don’t reason and think in any remote sense the same way as humans. It’s silly to try and take some biological aspect of our species or other species and draw a conclusion about how we should use the thing that makes humans, human.

    But that is just my hot take on this.