how can I develop a thick skin? - eviltoast

today was supposed to be my first day of therapy and the therapist didn’t show up. I’m pissed off. I wasted 2 hours for nothing.

I’ve sent her a polite message, asking if she’s sick and hoping she is well, but in reality I wanted to yell at her. However, if I yell at her, chances are she won’t treat me.

Before you suggest to find another therapist, finding a shrink where I live is very difficult and the other ones I contacted have either ignored me or are overbooked. I need therapy and it bothers me to be so dependent on one person.

For those of you who have experienced something similar, how doesn’t it bother you?

  • huginn@feddit.it
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    10 months ago

    It’s not developing a thick skin, it’s developing compassion.

    Never attribute to malice what can be reasonably explained by incompetence or stupidity. Similarly that which can be explained by happenstance.

    Don’t be a doormat obviously but assume they had a reason and be as gracious as possible in excusing their faults.

    If anything what you need is to be more emotionally available not less. Empathy serves you far better than rage.