what has worked for you to stop getting angry thinking about people who hurt you? - eviltoast

I’m letting people who hurt me in the past live rent free in my mind.

One episode involves a former landlord that tried to run me over in an intersection with no traffic cameras.

Another one involves a manager that fired me for informing that one of his favorites yelled during night shift and ignored alarms to talk. He fired me the next day, used the exit interview to tell me everything I didn’t do right (but kept quiet about his favorites, even though I did the job like them), still had the utmost confidence on his favorites, accused me of being lazy and instead of simply firing me and keeping neutral he chose to take it personal, proceeded to try to scare me insinuating I wouldn’t work for his system again, when that failed, tried to humiliate me and then fired me. This was in an non union hospital.

When I think about it I get angry. Id like not to be so thin skinned, but here I am.

  • pinkdrunkenelephants@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    Allowing yourself to feel your emotions without care.

    There’s nothing wrong with being angry at people who hurt you. You’re kind of supposed to be; that’s what anger is for.

    It’s not unhealthy or imprudent or a negative in any wat regardless of what anyone else told you, or society. There’s literally nothing wrong with it and people who tell you there is are being deeply unethical and usually have a political agenda. Ignore them.

    Be angry, be sad, be fearful, cry, and be free.

    Also you need to do something to hold those scumbags accountable, especially the landlord who tried to run you over. What the fuck? Didn’t you call the cops?