what has worked for you to stop getting angry thinking about people who hurt you? - eviltoast

I’m letting people who hurt me in the past live rent free in my mind.

One episode involves a former landlord that tried to run me over in an intersection with no traffic cameras.

Another one involves a manager that fired me for informing that one of his favorites yelled during night shift and ignored alarms to talk. He fired me the next day, used the exit interview to tell me everything I didn’t do right (but kept quiet about his favorites, even though I did the job like them), still had the utmost confidence on his favorites, accused me of being lazy and instead of simply firing me and keeping neutral he chose to take it personal, proceeded to try to scare me insinuating I wouldn’t work for his system again, when that failed, tried to humiliate me and then fired me. This was in an non union hospital.

When I think about it I get angry. Id like not to be so thin skinned, but here I am.

  • Scubus@sh.itjust.works
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    10 months ago

    An ex was going out of their way to humiliate me, presumably because they were hurting. I revealed one of their secrets and effectively ruined their social life. Years later after going through shitloads of therapy I realized that despite what they did to me, I still wanted to be friends with them. Unfortunately, due to my actions they no longer want to be friends with me.

    • richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one
      1·
      10 months ago

      Years later after going through shitloads of therapy I realized that despite what they did to me, I still wanted to be friends with them.

      Was the therapist religious? That sounds too much like “the other cheek” to me…

      • Scubus@sh.itjust.works
        2·
        10 months ago

        I think they are? But I am extremely anti-religion so we haven’t discussed it much.

        I came to that conclusion on my own though. Our breakup was bad enough to get me diagnosed with PTSD, so I tended to think about her a lot, and come up with my own ideas which i run by my therapist to make sure they’re not monumentally stupid.