I'm just trying to relate - eviltoast

Image of a screenshot of Twitter of a screenshot of Facebook.

The Facebook screenshot reads:

Fun fact about me: When I’m having a conversation with you, I will periodically bring up personal experiences from my own life, interspersed withing your own stories that you’re telling me. I’m not doing this to try and make the conversation about me, or to take away from your own experience. Actually, what I’m attempting to do, is to try and show you that I do, in fact, understand what you’re trying to tell me, and that I am giving your story my full attention.

It can really be off-putting to some people, so if I’ve ever done this to you during a conversation, I just wanted to make sure you know that I wasn’t trying to take over your story, I was just doing my best to connect with you in the moment.

The screenshot of Twitter reads:

This. I am fully aware that I do this. And I feel so guilty every time, but this. Understand this.

  • dsemy@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    Idk about other instances, but almost anyone I had a long conversation with seems to do this…

    • Nepenthe@kbin.social
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      1 year ago

      Gonna say it’s because conversations are supposed to be an equal back-and-forth and the internet makes me sad?

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      1 year ago

      Because it’s completely normal to share personal experiences during conversations with people you are familiar with. In fact, in my opinion, the weird part would be calling someone out for bringing up a conversationally relevant anecdote.

      • octoperson@sh.itjust.works
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        1 year ago

        Could be that it’s appropriate or inappropriate depending on context, or how you do it, and auti folk are less intrinsically able to read the room. So the autistic trait here would not be doing it, but getting called out about it or fretting about it. NTs wouldn’t really give it a second thought.