Noticing a pattern. - eviltoast

First, I am a late diagnosis, so if some of my terminology is offensive please tell me, assimilation is hard.

On the the point, I have been noticing a pattern, I am in a number of allistic or mixed groups, online or in meetup type spaces. I am trying to expand my social circle, and I have nearly always been alone.

Is it typical amongst nurotypical people to respond to a question with need for information questions and then, when they realize that (and I don’t know which) they’re not interested or they can’t help they just move on, not explain that they can’t help or aren’t interested?

  • ByroTriz@lemmy.mlEnglish
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    1 year ago

    they can be confident in their social power and openly admit that they don’t know. However, you’ll really only see this with high ranking people that have security in their social rank (e.g. executives, famous professors, etc.) , those that are so low in their rank that not knowing isn’t going to affect them, or people that are visiting temporarily so their long-term position doesn’t matter or they have an excuse to not know.

    I very much agree with everything you said, except for the above sentence. Being high ranking in a formal institution doesn’t automatically translate to being high social status and it certainly doesn’t translate to being confident.

    Many people in high ranking positions are extremely insecure and will cling to their position in a desperate attempt to increase their status. Being ignorant may not affect a high ranker position but it will affect their status (especially if the ignorance is displayed in a social setting). Because of this, how a person respond will be heavily affected by the status of the asker.