Noticing a pattern. - eviltoast

First, I am a late diagnosis, so if some of my terminology is offensive please tell me, assimilation is hard.

On the the point, I have been noticing a pattern, I am in a number of allistic or mixed groups, online or in meetup type spaces. I am trying to expand my social circle, and I have nearly always been alone.

Is it typical amongst nurotypical people to respond to a question with need for information questions and then, when they realize that (and I don’t know which) they’re not interested or they can’t help they just move on, not explain that they can’t help or aren’t interested?

  • AkaBobHoward@lemmy.worldOP
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    1 year ago

    Okay, so first wow and thank you, that is a lot and I am going to need to read it a few times and I love it!

    Now I have to tell you the first few sentences I had a person with hands together 🙏clapping them rapidly right at their sternum. And for the rest there was a hurried voice and someone repeatedly returning up and down to and from tip toes. And-it-was-magical.

    Now I am going to read that like 5 times so I can absorb it. And thank you again…I will also look at that book, but I generally run stuff like that by my therapist first to make sure it doesn’t clash with what we are working on at the moment.

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      1 year ago

      You’re very welcome!

      Yes, I was excited similar to the person you described, but I wasn’t in a position to act it out at the time. I still felt it though!

      Now I am going to read that like 5 times so I can absorb it.

      Let me know if you have any questions about what I commented. Also, please know that I am not a specialist in this field or a therapist. I’m just some guy that got real interested in the subject once I was diagnosed.

      I generally run stuff like that by my therapist first to make sure it doesn’t clash with what we are working on at the moment.

      That sounds like a great rule to have 🙂

      • AkaBobHoward@lemmy.worldOP
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        1 year ago

        Yes, I was excited similar to the person you described, but I wasn’t in a position to act it out at the time. I still felt it though!

        I am very glad because I felt like I brought joy to your life.

        And I will I have a bookmark placed on your comment so I can get back to it. If I come up with questions I will put it in a reply here so you will get a notification.