First, I am a late diagnosis, so if some of my terminology is offensive please tell me, assimilation is hard.
On the the point, I have been noticing a pattern, I am in a number of allistic or mixed groups, online or in meetup type spaces. I am trying to expand my social circle, and I have nearly always been alone.
Is it typical amongst nurotypical people to respond to a question with need for information questions and then, when they realize that (and I don’t know which) they’re not interested or they can’t help they just move on, not explain that they can’t help or aren’t interested?
This happens to me a lot. It is so frustrating. People either don’t care to elaborate, or, they can’t be bothered or don’t know how to explain the question they are asking, because it makes sense to them. sigh This definitely has an impact in some of my social circles, and I feel left out when it happens.
There are times that I feel like others are taking offense to me asking for clarification. I have found that in some cases my tone of voice is misunderstood, trying to clear up the misunderstanding didn’t help, but it did at least give me an explanation.