Does Hexbear mandate all users to specify their preferred pronouns? - eviltoast
  • qyron@sopuli.xyz
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    1 year ago

    That is odd. I usually prefer when people talk with me instead of about me.

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      1 year ago

      I’m sorry, I don’t understand what you mean in relation to what I said.

      • ekky43@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        1 year ago

        Were talking pronouns as part of the sign up process.

        @qyron@sopuli.xyz says that @qyron@sopuli.xyz would rather like to be tagged and be part of the conversation, instead of having people talk behind @qyron@sopuli.xyz’s back.

        It’s likely meant to be seen as a witty remark, and not a statement. :)

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          1 year ago

          Why is being witty the default stance, instead of an honest statement?

          • ekky43@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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            1 year ago

            Writing out a person’s full name/tag every time you reference them is not practical (see my previous comment), so one wouldn’t give this as reason against third person references in a serious discussion.

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              1 year ago

              If the genesis of the entire issue with chosen pronouns is about basic respect, personal convinience can take a back seat and we can adress a person by name.

              But then again, I’m often viewed as petty in my personal peeves.

              Better to just not talk about someone and instead just talk with the person.

              • Grimy@lemmy.world
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                1 year ago

                Really think hard about what you are saying. Next time you have a conversation, try mentioning no one else except the person you are talking to and yourself.

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                  1 year ago

                  Oh, don’t temp me.

                  It’s been probably very clear by this point that English is not my native language but I can, with a degree of effort, have a conversation about a third person by naming said individual and use “person”, “individual” and other similar terms to refer to the absent third party without need to resort to pronouns.

                  It takes some effort, the end result is a bit terse in english, but I can make it work.

                  But, to repeat myself, better to not talk about someone else but instead talk with said person.

                  Petty. But so satisfying.

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                    1 year ago

                    Pronouns are there to make conversation easier and more straight forward. You can avoid using them, it’s just uselessly silly to do so.

                    It’s normal to refer to someone else during conversation, even essential. Why should we be avoiding this behavior as to eliminate pronouns in our speech? Whats the reasoning? Pronouns are a completely normal and essential part of our language, I’m having trouble understanding why you want to cleave the pool of potential conversation subjects to avoid them?

    • NeoNachtwaechter@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      I usually prefer when people talk with me instead of about me.

      Sorry if you didn’t want to know, but: you can’t get rich that way.

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          I’m talking about qyron right now, qyron won’t supply us with qyrons chosen pronoun and now I have to say qyron every damn time instead of a nice short common pronoun.

          Qyron is making things unnecessarily difficult and shitty. Don’t be like qyron.

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              Ahh yes of course I can’t believe I didn’t think of that! If I knew their pronoun preference I could almost attribute that to their registered gender, and that almost lowers my possible targets down to a mere 4,000,000,000.

              Phew that is some easy doxxin’

          • qyron@sopuli.xyz
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            1 year ago

            Yes! Now you get!

            I have to add this here because you just wrote a gold opportunity for me to mock myself. Can we have signatures in Lemmy? I would make the following as mine. Perhaps a little reviewed for shorter form.

            Here is qyron, the most obnoxious example of a person you can find, to the point where making anything and everything harder than necessary becomes a self defining characteristic.

            This is an individual that takes pride and pleasure of torturing others just to make a moot point on any front.

            Don’t be like this personality. Nobody deserves to be like so.