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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/EarAlive8000 on 2023-10-07 05:54:28.
I’m a high school US History teacher and I teach one period of APUSH. I have 21 kids in that class and they honestly are some of the smartest kids in their grade. I require them to form study groups and meet outside of class every unit to study. One of these groups was studying at Target. There is a Starbucks at that Target and apparently they were studying there and decided to take a break by walking around Target.
I was also at Target with my wife and her sister at the time. One of them was being pushed around in a shopping cart and all of them were acting more like kindergartners than 16 year olds. They said hello to me in the aisle and I somewhat jokingly told my wife and sister in law that these are “some of the best and brightest juniors at our school”. I did not want to have an extended conversation with my students at Target so we left and I almost forgot about the whole interaction.
Later my sister in law brought it up again and said that I hurt my students’ feelings by making making sarcastic remarks about them. I don’t think they were hurt. I make fun of them sometimes and I only do it to the kids that can take a joke. I know these ones can. Besides, I didn’t say anything hurtful. I told my wife and SIL that they’re smart kids while they were doing some pretty stupid things. I don’t think I said anything wrong but my SIL is insisting that I’m hurting the kids’ self esteem. AITA? Is my old age making me insensitive and out of touch with the young’uns?
Your SIL has no conception of how “self esteem” works. What a kidney stone of a person.
You knew your audience - you knew how they would take it. A joke is only funny when both parties laugh. A judgement can’t really be made unless we know their reaction