Would a federated dating site work well? What would it look like? - eviltoast

Basically title, every bit of online dating nowadays is either Match or Meta, and we’re all about breaking corporate chains right?

So these are the thoughts I had:

  1. Matches based on simple user selection: age range, lifestyle, hobbies etc. None of that dumb algorithm stuff that makes you reset your profile every month.

  2. ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.

  3. E2EE for messaging (and anything else if it’s possible).

  4. Someone wrote an open-source anti-CSAM script for Lemmy recently, I hope we could adapt that to our use.

  5. Just, like, everyone have a good time on this app, we’re here for love lol

I am not a coder, so I would have no idea how to do this, but I wonder about the interest in such a creation. Maybe some of you out there could make something I could use to get a date (pls).

  • jet@hackertalks.comEnglish
    15·
    1 year ago

    And of those, the majority are probably also male.

    Ok we start with a federated Grindr, then once that takes off we use the network effects to pull in other orientations…

    • Dyskolos@lemmy.zip
      1·
      1 year ago

      Lol. But… We already have grindr. If I’d be gay, why should i use anything else? 😁

      • jet@hackertalks.comEnglish
        3·
        1 year ago

        It’s still controlled by a single organization, it’s not federated, it’s not open, it’s not Democratic. So if we’re trying to bring democracy to more platforms, why not grinder?

        • Dontfearthereaper123@lemm.ee
          5·
          1 year ago

          Yea but if I’m going on grindr my main desire is dick not democracy. Grindr is much more of a hookup app than a dating one so your trying to market to a customer based blinded by horniness.

        • Dyskolos@lemmy.zip
          3·
          1 year ago

          Actually i don’t know shit about grinder. Just that it exists. But as long as it’s free (i assume?) and fair, i wouldn’t mind. Most platforms are (or end up) squeezing guys for every penny they have in hopes of finding someone. That is a system that disgusts me.

          But simply technically: too few nerdy gays to build a federated grinder. And no cash to market it. And every potential gay would just be like “there’s already grinder, where is the added benefit?”

          • jet@hackertalks.comEnglish
            1·
            1 year ago

            As long as the participants have symmetrical information and are not influenced by a third party, it’s very democratic