Would a federated dating site work well? What would it look like? - eviltoast

Basically title, every bit of online dating nowadays is either Match or Meta, and we’re all about breaking corporate chains right?

So these are the thoughts I had:

  1. Matches based on simple user selection: age range, lifestyle, hobbies etc. None of that dumb algorithm stuff that makes you reset your profile every month.

  2. ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.

  3. E2EE for messaging (and anything else if it’s possible).

  4. Someone wrote an open-source anti-CSAM script for Lemmy recently, I hope we could adapt that to our use.

  5. Just, like, everyone have a good time on this app, we’re here for love lol

I am not a coder, so I would have no idea how to do this, but I wonder about the interest in such a creation. Maybe some of you out there could make something I could use to get a date (pls).

  • AlolanYoda@mander.xyz
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    1 year ago

    When you say algorithmic dating, did you try multiple apps or just one? Did you have more positive experiences with any one app?

    I may do it, but I’m a bit shy about the account creation part, specifically having to take pictures of myself which are not terrible. I feel like I’m decently attractive, but I hate all pictures of me. I think this is honestly my biggest hurdle.

    • jet@hackertalks.com
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      1 year ago

      Tried multiple, basically it doesn’t matter how good the app is, but where the people are. Different apps are popular in different places.

      Everyone you haven’t met is a stranger, it doesn’t matter what strangers think. Just take your photos and make a profile, don’t worry about it. Get the profile going and just see what happens, no pressure, all strangers anyway.

      It doesn’t matter if you don’t like your own photos, your not trying to match with yourself. We are our own worst critics, other people are more forgiving.