We are normally good at masking bc its expected of us but I am so tired of it. I’m so tired of having to pretend like I’m someone I’m not.
Then when we mess up and let our guard down or make a mistake and accidentally show people we are ND, we get dogpiled or yelled at. It sucks especially bc we sometimes don’t understand social mores, so even when we are confident that we are acting the way NTs expect us to, we can end up wrong and still get yelled at.
It’s awful bc we are never gonna create a more equitable society if we can’t have these types of conversations with NTs. We have to show them that bring ND isn’t an insult, but that’s when we get yelled at or made fun of.
I feel like federated-not-Reddit-thingle has gotten to a point where it’s really nasty sometimes :-\ People look for the worst possible interpretation (even in ND spaces like this??) and get by with just generally crappy “sit down and shut up” type behaviour, among other things. Idunno if the caring types just got bored and left, or maybe the novelty wore off and they’re just less active than the ones who wanna be hateful and cruel, or maybe they’ve all skittered off to beehaw or someplace that doesn’t even federate with instances I’m seeing some of this behaviour on (or maybe most/all? I haven’t really been paying attention to that)
Am really thinking I should join them; the content (and ability to downvote the awful, which makes me feel a little better even when I don’t have the time or energy to fully call out the problem) probably isn’t worth the awful.