Traveling on a ferry, I was having dinner. In the eating area, there was a group of friends traveling together and one dude kept laughing. His laugh was so loud and infectious that everyone he laughed, I couldn’t help but chuckle. Even after finishing eating and going to another part of the ferry, I could still hear him and it still made me laugh.
Saw a person smile, caught a scent of someone else, was able to breath normally, felt my heartbeat soften, noticed on my skin some small scars from my childhood, remembered a joke somebody dear to me used to tell, saw a young pup react to her first ever experiences, found somebody having a hard time transitioning from Windows to Linux… Thankful to be alive at the same points in time and space as some truly wonderful beings.
This happened few days back, I was on a bus and the bus conductor had this infectious smile, the way he was happy and talking to people as he was asking for bus tickets felt wholesome. There was also this lady who appeared to not know the local language who was looking cluelessly as he was talking to the others, he then realised she didn’t know the language and he switched to the language she was speaking and made up something funny which I didn’t understand because I don’t know the language. Seeing how he was able to cheer up the travellers felt wholesome, it gave me much needed positivity for the rest of the day even though he didn’t talk to me or anything, it had me thinking how better our life would be if more people were like this.
For me it’s bees. Honestly any pollinator, even wasps. I call the ones in my yard my ladies or my babies. I love them so much. I have clover instead of grass for them. I like to stand at the window and watch them.
I saw a mother fox and her (kits?) playing near a vacant lot recently and it was the happiest I’d felt in ages. They were just so cute.
On this about a year ago I was out for a walk during the witching hour and saw a pair of bunnies playing on a front yard it was adorable.
Like how I feel knowing I don’t have to live in america
Started antidepressants (sertraline) 2 weeks ago, after refusing them all my life, because of the studies that are mixed at best. I am a pessimistic guy, but I can tell they are starting to work way beyond placebo. It gives me hope after feeling hopeless for most of my life.
Keep on keeping on, you beautiful thing!
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I was on sertraline a while back. Like the other poster, it was a dramatic difference – like the broken part of my brain was put on mute. Suddenly, life didn’t seem so hopeless.
Great to hear! Looking forward to the follwing weeks, because I was told its effects increase over at least a month.
That’s the one I’m on! It helped me immensely and I could never picture going back now. It was so bad at one piont I could barely get out of bed for anything and now I hop right out of bed to get the day started! Been on it for many years now, and have no regrets.
Awesome. That is very encouraging. Thank you. I am glad to hear you’re doing better now.
It was 4am in late 1998. Cher’s “I believe” was just released and as a result on near constant repeat on MTV (music on MTV, how shocking,right?) in the background while I was sitting on dialup, in a private AOL chat room, playing hangman with several others via someones chat proggie.
I won.
My cat usually sleeps my by head, but it’s randomly gotten chilly and she’s been shaved for the summer, so she was under the blankets. We ended up sleeping back to back. That was my old cat’s favorite sleeping position. When I woke up, I was 12 again, just for a little bit.
Sitting out back in my chair and watching the clouds, or crocheting/knitting out there. A nice breeze, sunlight through the trees. Sometimes I just go out there to stand a little and come back in.
I started Monster Hunter Wilds recently and it’s reminded me of why I love games. I always think of the friend who introduced it to me and how excited we were when I kill my first “big” monster. I killed this fire octopus last night and I raised my hands up in excitement and was, well, excited and happy. I don’t feel that way very often.
And just getting to sit in silence. I live alone, and I’m lucky enough to have good neighbors. Just getting to lay in bed and do nothing before getting up is such a gift.
The blue sky through a gap in the trees
A momentary lapse in background noise so it’s unexpectedly quiet
The feeling of wind tugging at your clothes
Rain on the roof
Kids running home from the school bus
Starlings in the tree out my office window singing
The sun on my back, the wind on my front
Sore muscles from hard exercise
The twist in a short story I read, and the wow moment
My room being tidy
Joy? Happiness? Peace? Gratitude? What are those?
Singing samoyeds always make me feel a little happier: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lkeyV6lUwuU
This is probably stupid, but I stopped at a local farm/nursery today to pick up strawberries and saw some super cool looking annuals. I should have taken a picture/written down the flower because it would look awesome potted in my little garden.
They were tiny, super tight balls of color.
Go back and ask someone about them! 😁👍
That’s not stupid it’s lovely
I’ve recently been working longer hours than usual away from home. My dog has been much more physically affectionate when I’m around because he misses me (cries). For example, at night he sleeps against my leg so that he’ll know if I get up. Things have been tough recently but knowing that this furry monster that lives in my house loves me has been helping.
Dogs are so great for therapy like that. My dog tells me dozens of times a day how much she loves me, and sometimes that snaps me out of my self-defeating mood.
They are technically triggers but for good things, right?
no, i think a trigger is something that gives you the urge to be angry about something right now.
a glimmer would give you a feeling of content-ness, but it lasts longer. like maybe a few seconds or hours.
I have already explained myself so simply copy pasting:
How hard is it to accept that OP messed up instead of throwing objectively wrong word salad? Your whole argument is like someone trying to claim that cents are not money because they can’t be used to buy big things.
Triggers are anything that initiates a reaction or event, regardless of their intensity. They are independent of how they are perceived, whether positively or negatively. Triggers have developed a tendency toward negativity due to their rising connection to negative events.
Glimmers are, at best, a specific type of positive trigger with added context.
Another example can be reading my reply. If you were curious about this whole thing, you would be TRIGGERED to feel happy or excited that you learned something new, and this would become your GLIMMER. On the other hand, if you were argumentative, you would be TRIGGERED to feel bad that some random person on the internet does not agree with your definition, which would fulfill your definition of triggers.
This thread can be a glimpse of Orwellian doublethink horror.
No. A trigger is a link to a negatives experience. This is noticing good things.
So you mean like a trigger but for good things?
I mean I think we are joking here and I did chuckle, but I would agree that there is a clear distinction.
A trigger is a conditioning you have that brings up negative past experiences and associations.
These glimmers are basically you conditioning yourself to check-in with yourself and appreciate a moment and be more conscious of positive emotions or associations. So yes both conditioning, but one is a totally involuntary conditioning and the latter is a trained conditioning.
And I would say in their intensity they will also be very different. We are just very wired to feel negative emotions incredibly visceral to immediately change our behaviour. The same is not really true for conditioning ourselves to appreciate a moment or perspective.
How hard is it to accept that OP messed up instead of throwing objectively wrong word salad? Your whole argument is like someone trying to claim that cents are not money because they can’t be used to buy big things.
Triggers are anything that initiates a reaction or event, regardless of their intensity. They are independent of how they are perceived, whether positively or negatively. Triggers have developed a tendency toward negativity due to their rising connection to negative events.
Glimmers are, at best, a specific type of positive trigger with added context.
Another example can be reading my reply. If you were curious about this whole thing, you would be TRIGGERED to feel happy or excited that you learned something new, and this would become your GLIMMER. On the other hand, if you were argumentative, you would be TRIGGERED to feel bad that some random person on the internet does not agree with your definition, which would fulfill your definition of triggers.
This thread can be a glimpse of Orwellian doublethink horror.
For what it‘s worth I think you are correct. Even if I feel triggered in feeling that you came in hot, but you are speaking truth and in a mental health forum I think that is most important.
I think in my response I should have rather touched upon that what the other poster is touching upon is that for a Glimmer we sometimes have to learn to experience them fully, which is not a clear distinction between the two. There can also be negative triggers you do not catch up on.
So yes, I drew a false dichotomy and should have approached this differently, thank you for correcting it.
