It’s difficult, especially online. IRL, I can be deliberately inflammatory and with a disarming smile and a wink, the conversation stays friendly. That’s not so easy online. Where, to make it more complicated, you and the other person are practically anonymous. And we’re constantly faced with trolls, so the temptation is to shut them down and have fun doing so. We probably could be better at not being deliberately inflammatory but I’m in no place to judge. It’s worth us discussing that, too, though, so that we only do it on appropriate occasions and when we intend to.