Do people get partners because as we get older we have less friends? - eviltoast

It’s lonely being an adult

  • beachcamp@sh.itjust.works
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    1 year ago

    Obviously a lot of people here disagree. But I think for most people the answer is unequivocally yes.

    I guess if you think the bare minimum for friendship is someone you say “Hi” to at the water cooler every once in a while then no, you can have lots of friends aside from your partner. But for many people your friendship/relationship with your partner consumes most of your time (outside of work). Add on to that kids, and that’s a wrap.

    For most people that replaces the majority of the strong friendships that might have had when they were younger. Sure maybe they still have a couple of friends, hence the “less”.

    Actually now that I wrote that I realize the answer is no. People consolidate their friendships partly due to maturity, but also in large part because they find friendship/companionship in their partner. People don’t get partners because they have less friends, they have less friends in part because they get a partner.