I feel this so much - why not just say what you want/need? It makes relationships so much easier. I will admit, it took a lot of fumbles for me to realize that, tho. 😅
It depends on how you’re raised I think, and then you gotta fuck up and figure it out when you get older.
It’s a disease in my family. I was talking with my uncle the other day and he had been upset with his wife. He didn’t tell her, he just went and slept on the couch. Done the whole cold shoulder thing.
I told him he needs to spit out whatever he’s feeling in that moment if he wants things to work. No sense sitting on it thinking the other person should know why you’re upset. Different things hit people different ways. Something that might make your blood boil might get a chuckle out of me. My wife’s whole family calls her a “fun sucker” but to me she’s the most fun person I’ve ever known. They aren’t mean about it, she’s just a moody woman and she always has been. They say it with love. My family says the same kind of thing about me, so my mom and her mom laugh together and say, “there’s somebody for everybody”.
You have to talk and express these things or it won’t work. I’m glad I know that now and am applying it in the relationship I’m in today.
I feel this so much - why not just say what you want/need? It makes relationships so much easier. I will admit, it took a lot of fumbles for me to realize that, tho. 😅
It depends on how you’re raised I think, and then you gotta fuck up and figure it out when you get older.
It’s a disease in my family. I was talking with my uncle the other day and he had been upset with his wife. He didn’t tell her, he just went and slept on the couch. Done the whole cold shoulder thing.
I told him he needs to spit out whatever he’s feeling in that moment if he wants things to work. No sense sitting on it thinking the other person should know why you’re upset. Different things hit people different ways. Something that might make your blood boil might get a chuckle out of me. My wife’s whole family calls her a “fun sucker” but to me she’s the most fun person I’ve ever known. They aren’t mean about it, she’s just a moody woman and she always has been. They say it with love. My family says the same kind of thing about me, so my mom and her mom laugh together and say, “there’s somebody for everybody”.
You have to talk and express these things or it won’t work. I’m glad I know that now and am applying it in the relationship I’m in today.