How would you process the fact that a new friend of yours is a cop? (USA) - eviltoast

One of my new friends is/was a cop. Just found out about it. I genuinely believe ACAB, and this news has me conflicted because my new friend seems really cool and super nice. I don’t know him super well yet, though. He’s a big part of this new friend group and I don’t know how to process this and how to deal with the fact he’s a cop.

I don’t want to look past the fact he’s a cop, but I want to stay his friend and stay in this friend group.

Any advice for dealing with this shit?

I can’t talk to my therapist about it until Thursday.

  • dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works
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    18 days ago

    Seems like maybe reality is at odds with a generalization. Maybe every cop is not a bastard, every landlord is not an oppressive monster, and every person who makes more money than you is not a net drain on society.

    Maybe you have just discovered something rare and elusive: nuance.

    This post reads like a lefty caricature by someone hard right, esp the last sentence.

    • ERROR: Earth.exe has crashed@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      18 days ago

      Cops are not necessary evil, but the system tends to corrupt people and turn them to bad cops, just as with any position of power.

      Landlords… well it depends. Someone who saved up a bit of money and invest in a few properties for retirement fund, they aren’t evil, just trying to survive.

      Someone already rich and just want to buy up entire apartment buildings? Yea that seems a bit like excessive property hoarding, don’t sympathize with those.

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      17 days ago

      Thanks for some sanity here. Some of these comments are really bizarre.

      Look, I get that the system is shitty and corrupt. I don’t condone that and I agree it needs to change. But that doesn’t mean that every single individual is a terrible person. Some people are too chronically online to understand that life is not black and white.