What was the dumbest way that you lost a friend? - eviltoast
  • zerozaku@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    I used to have an online friend who never really texts me first unless I do. Since they’re a leftie, I wished them on Happy Left-handers Day and they replied that I don’t need to wish them, which I only did to spark some conversation. This put me off and I went “Alr I won’t bother texting you ever” and they went “Ok”.

    Haven’t texted them in 3 months, neither did they (as they don’t ever). Idk who is the idiot here, me, she or both.

    I don’t really like ending friendships from my side, so I might text them on her birthday and see how it goes.

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      20 hours ago

      What a bizarre reaction to something very innocuous. I knew a woman on FB who thought that “thumbs upping” her comments was somehow offensive. I wrote her off as nuts.

      • zerozaku@lemmy.world
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        7 hours ago

        I knew a woman on FB who thought that “thumbs upping” her comments was somehow offensive.

        Online texting/interactions do cause a lot of misunderstanding especially when you are talking to someone who is not very online.

        My friend wasn’t that simple though, she kept insisting that she didn’t care if I texted or not. Now that I think about it, I am not very sure to text her back.

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      1 day ago

      So trivial lol, maybe both of you are kinda in a petty mood that day.

      If it was me I’d probably just ask what went wrong immediately cuz I’m impatient.

      I hope you can make up.

      • zerozaku@lemmy.world
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        1 day ago

        I know right! Yeah if I remember correctly I think I was in my sort of bad mood and texted them to ease up the mood.

    • CarrotsHaveEars@lemmy.ml
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      2 days ago

      For the whole paragraph the pronoun in use is 'them ’ except for the end, it is ‘she’. Can I assume her sex is female and her gender is something different?

      Also you sound like a caring and persistent person. It is valuable to have a friend like this.

      • zerozaku@lemmy.world
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        7 hours ago

        Can I assume her sex is female and her gender is something different?

        No haha, I just didn’t bother towards the end to keep making the story as less detailed as possible about her.

        Also you sound like a caring and persistent person. It is valuable to have a friend like this.

        Thank you! That’s something nobody has told me since I am very introverted irl.