Is it narcissistic to use positive affirmations to build confidence? - eviltoast

I have always struggled with self-esteem, especially when it comes to RSD. To cope, I’ve found that repeating certain positive affirmations like “I can do anything,” “I’m awesome,” etc. helps me feel more confident in myself. It’s not about being arrogant, but more like a mental trick to push through my insecurities and feel better in the moment.

The thing is, some people around me are starting to accuse me of being a narcissist because of it. I’ll admit, part of me does enjoy the attention that comes with these affirmations, and for a while, I just leaned into it. But now it feels like it’s spiraling a bit out of control. I’m wondering if I’ve crossed some line between self-empowerment and self-centeredness.

I don’t want to seem arrogant or like I’m trying to manipulate anyone, but I really don’t know how else to keep my confidence up. Has anyone else experienced this? How do you manage the fine line between boosting your self-esteem and coming off as narcissistic, especially when dealing with ADHD or autism?

  • Termiboros@lemmy.autism.place
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    4 days ago

    when people tell me I look good or something I reply “I know, thanks” instead of the usual knee-jerk reaction of completely disregarding them and possibly even denying it verbally

    Personally, I’d just thank them without denying, but also not stating that “I know” because it kinda feels like saying “I know that already, why’d you even mention it”.

    As for mentioning others, I think it works by writing @<username>@<userinstance>, e.g. @narr1@lemmy.autism.place

    • Narri N.@lemmy.autism.place
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      3 days ago

      feels like saying “I know that already, why’d you even mention it”.

      Yeah, it can sound like that. But then again, I live in a tiny, sad excuse for a city in rural Finland, and in my small circles I’m known for dressing “up” or just dressing well. I have a certain sense of style, and I know what clothes fit me and look good on me. It’s actually something I’ve worked on for a long time, and I’m quite proud of my ability to do so. So it ties to that, see? What I was trying to bring across was maybe that one shouldn’t be ashamed of things one has achieved, but the context was obviously lacking.