@cabbage - eviltoast

Not ideologically pure.

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  • I don’t think this will be much of a problem for the rest of us, as the users over there will also not be interested in posting in communities where they get fewer interactions. It sounds bad for people who want to start a community at cluball, but unless it somehow gets larger than the rest of the threadiverse combined it’s not really much of a problem for the rest of us.


  • Any reason why they should be defederated, other than “we don’t like closed source around here”?

    I really don’t mind closed platforms being federated as long as it doesn’t hurt the rest of us in any way. If it brings in some users who are drawn in by the interface, that’s great.

    Of course, being a single site it might draw the wrong crowd, and end up having serious moderation problems. In that case of course defederation is a natural choice.


  • A problem is also the idea of “doing it” as the key phrase here.

    What is “it” exactly? Is “it” drugging women and raping them? That might even be fewer than 1/200. I sure as hell hope it is. In either case it’s surely too many - enough that you should never fucking leave your drink unattended.

    Is “it” being a bit lax on consent? She’s drunk, you’re drunk, you’re in bed together, she’s so drunk it’s not really clear what she wants. You made it this far, surely that’s consent enough? In this category of rape, I think there’s a whole lot more than one in two hundred.

    Your partner says she doesn’t feel like it, but you’ll go for it anyway - it’s not like she’s fighting to resist you either? Yeah, a whole lot more than one in two hundred.

    Groping someone in a club when drunk? Hell, we’ve all seen it happen from people we genuinely thought knew better.

    I like to believe that the amount of men who would, say, drug and rape someone, is in a very tiny majority. But as for men willing to make arguments about “blurred lines” where there is none, I’m sadly less optimistic.


  • It’s a great example of why teaching people about consent is important. Some of the men on trial claim they thought it was a consensual kinky game played between husband and wife, and that they were unaware they were raping anybody.

    I don’t expect they will have much success with this argument in court. But it’s the kind of shit one might fall for if one has not received the training to know with immediate certainty that consent is only established by an active yes, never by the lack of a no, and that it needs to be personally gathered by anyone involved in the act. And that without consent, it’s rape.

    It’s fucking obvious, but I can totally see how some people could buy into their claim of good faith and act as if it means something. Not necessarily because they’re bad people, but because they lack the training to understand what consent means and why it’s important.











  • Great post!

    I would be curious to know how many people on here have found memories from BBcode-style forums.

    Personally I kinda skipped web 2.0 - I had some accounts, sure, but I hardly interacted with anything else than direct messaging. However I used to hang out on phpBB for probably hours every day before Facebook took over, having been lured in by needing help progressing in Pokémon on my GameBoy Advance.

    I guess I’m a minority around here in never having used Reddit much. But I’m wondering if we’re, in general, a bunch of ageing nerds who are nostalgic to web 1.0, or if we’re a more diverse bunch than that. ;)

    Edit:
    Oh, and speaking of nostalgia, I’m sad LemmyBB is not maintained any more! It makes perfect sense that it isn’t of course, but what a blast it would be.